Relationships and real love, whataboutme.

We all have "the one" that got away. It always makes us think about what could have been...doesn't it? This has driven both men and women to such low points in their lives that depression or anger or mixed feelings has even led to thoughts of suicide, sadly a few have done the deed.

When people end a relationship, more often than not no amount of time will heal what caused the relationship to end. Save for a lucky few.

When you think "I want this person back" ask yourself a few questions.

1. Do I want them back because I am lonely? (quite possibly)

2. Am I a failure? (probably not :))

3. Did I do something wrong? (Maybe you did, maybe they did)

4. Do I like myself enough to move on?

5. Am I worthy of someone else? (Of course you are)

Understand that very few couples get the "dream" come true, the life forever with "the one". I myself have gone through divorce, but I did not lose it because my marriage was over long before it ended. I don't hold any anger or feelings of resentment, it simply didn't work. So I took some time, got over it, dusted myself of and moved on.

So can you!

If however, you really want to meet up with an ex, do one thing to really get them thinking about why you ended it.

In a nutshell, change your look or how you live. Believe it or not (and this applies to men and women) when a relationship ends, secretly we always blame the other person, don't we? Let them blame you, for whatever reason and when you see them again, prove them wrong.

It drives an ex crazy with mixed emotion when they see you have become what they wanted you to be. Just change for you, not for them.

Smile, remember the "good time" you had lol. Wish them the best. Remain friends.

I am truly envious though if you meet an ex and you get them back.

I would love to hear about it.

Good luck.