10 Grooming Tips Women Want You To Know

When cleaning our look up there are simply some things that MUST not be left out.

Take the time to look at how you look, it is vital to relationships and at times your career. However you view the article guys, let's keep it real.

Grooming is important.

Ask any woman, they know what it's all about. The smell of their skin, the color of their eye shadow, their nails, etc etc. They take the time and we damn well appreciate it. Right? (Rhetorical, ;))

So before reading this, ask yourself a question.

Who would she rather date?



Be Clean and Subtle

A spoon full of sugar....a little effort and preventative maintenance and bam you are well on your way to being quite the looker, as we all know woman like the lookers first. The men who take care of themselves take care of their woman.

The Terrible 10
problem areas as vocalized by women

Nail's

Cut them, clean them, use a kit, yes we do have them for men out there. Oh, before I forget I am also talking about your toe nails, nothing bothers a woman more than an ugly toenail and toe fungus.

Dry Lips

Cracked lips are a turn off for both sexes. Why are their lips so dry? Then the weird and scary thoughts begin, use a chapstick...


Nose Hair

Cut the trees out of there. Noone wants to see that. Point made.

The Unibrow

Wanna look like a bad 70's movie monster? Keep that sexy thing....wanna meet someone....pluck it or shave it. Either way get rid of it.

Ear Hair

See above

Dry Skin

Keep it soft and it will get more attention.

Dandruff

I can only say, spend a little extras and buy a better shampoo, see a barber, do whatever but make it go away.

Bad Breath

Game over before it starts, keep 'em clean, keep some mints on you.

Ear Wax

A sign that you really don't care about yourself. Translation = he will never care about me all that much.

Acne & Pores

Wash and clean, use a skin product.

When in doubt of these suggestions, simply think how you would feel if your date had any of these issues or more I haven't mentioned here. You would either be turned off, offended or make a note not to see her again right? Well big boy what do you think women do when you show up with these problems....

'Nuff said.

Romance on the rails

Rocky Mountaineer Vacations

Take in the beautiful Banff Mountains while travelling in luxury with Rocky Mountaineer Vacations. Different packages are available, offering from one night to three nights riding the rails. If you decide to go with the Gold Leaf Package, you can expect a glass-dome roof, allowing you to see everything around you that nature has to offer; from birds of prey to black bears.

You'll travel during daylight from selected boarding towns until you reach Banff. During the journey, nights are spent in various hotels along the way. An early departure each morning means you'll be able to take advantage of an entire day of the beautiful scenery.

Prices start at $799 and go up to approx $3,000 depending on the package and time of year.

Visit rockymountaineer.com for more information.

Experience the romance of Quebec, PEI and Nova Scotia by train

Travel aboard VIA Rail's Ocean train in Easterly Class on this seven night romantic journey. You will enjoy a six course 'tasting menu' at Auberge Bonaparte restaurant in Old Montreal, one of the stops on the trip. While there, take a walking tour of Old Montreal or a guided tram tour of the city.

And the romance doesn't stop there. Enjoy a dinner cruise on the St. Lawrence River on a Paris-style river boat. While in Charlottetown, take in some of the local culture with musical theatre tickets and a lobster dinner before the show. And you can't go to PEI without visiting the Anne of Green Gables Museum, so why not visit in your own private carriage and enjoy a picnic lunch?

Prices start at $2,500.

Visit canadayourway.com for more information.

Grand Tour of Great Britain aboard the Northern Bell-Orient Express

If you are looking to go abroad, try a seven day adventure through the English countryside. The price includes three nights' accommodation at the Caledonian in Edinburgh and three nights at the Chester Grosvenor in Chester.

When you board the train, you'll be greeted with a champagne brunch while you travel north to York. Visit the home of Castle Howard, which for over 300 years has been home to the Howard family as well as the setting for many movies. Your first night will be in Edinburgh and you'll awake the next morning to enjoy a leisurely day of sightseeing. Visit various Scottish sights such as Edinburgh Castle, the National Gallery and the Palage of Holyroodhouse.

Journey to Wales, Portmeirion and Chester on the days ahead to enjoy a wide variety of sights, cuisine and company. You will not be short of things to do along this beautiful journey.

Prices start at approximately $4,999 Canadian.

Visit orient-express.com for more details.

Board Orient-Express from Bangkok to Singapore

This journey will take you through South East Asia while travelling in style aboard the Eastern and Oriental Express from Bangkok to Singapore.

When you arrive in Bangkok you'll be whisked away to your hotel for three nights. Explore temples, exotic markets and restaurants serving authentic Thai food.

The next day you will board the train early in the morning for your three night journey to Singapore. Cross the Tham Kasse viaduct on your way to Kanchanaburi where you'll enjoy a boat ride along the Kwai River.

On your ninth day, you will arrive in Singapore where you will stay for two nights. There are many interesting sights and sounds to see during your visit.

Prices start at approximately $3,500.

Visit orient-express.com for more information.

What, what about me continued

A very interesting email I received from a friend earlier today. I do not know the author, but I did like it so I am sharing.

When I ge emails for article reprints I really wish "certain" friends would leave the resource box in tact...you know who you are...;)

Whataboutme ? What about you ? Here it is, enjoy.

The Question:

I’ve been dating this guy for 3 years, and just found out from his ex-girlfriend that in the first year of us dating he was still sending herflowers, and making CDs of songs that made him think of her. She broke it off for good, and the last 2 years he has been with only me, but he has never gotten me flowers, or even made me a CD, and I don’t think I’d even want it. After finding out what he did the first year of our relationship, I feel like if she would have came running back into his arms he would have left me for her.

Now he tells me he only loves me and wants to be with only me, but as far as being romantic to me, that will never happen, for he did it in the past and it didn’t work, so I just have to love him for him, and not for what he did for her. But I’m like we have been together for 3 years now and you have never gotten me flowers or anything, and he told me it was something between them, and it would only bring up old memories. What do I do????? I love him so much, but all this really hurts bad… I need some good advice… please help me.

The Answer

This question leaves me with a few questions of my own - Is this really about the romance or the fact that you're not sure if he's truly over her? Maybe you feel that he doesn't love you as much as her and that the'romance' would prove his love to you? - Just a few questions to ponder...

It sounds like your boyfriend was not over his previous girlfriend when the two of you decided to get serious, but claims that he is now. This can be a tough one because he never really gave himself time to heal and let go of the previous break up which could result in him carrying around this baggage for a very long time.

Dealing with broken trust

Open communication and honesty are the two most important components of a successful relationship. You have to honestly know in your heart - If his ex-girlfriend called him up tomorrow, would he leave you for her.
He broke this trust at the beginning of your relationship. If he went around your back for a full year, then I'd be concerned about his commitment now. But only you can really gauge if he's truly moved on.

However, let's remember that 2 years have passed. People change, feelings,and emotions change. And they tend to change all of a sudden, when the time is right for each person. So while he may have been dishonest with you for a verylong time, he may be perfectly committed to you now.

Open and honest communication from this point forward will be critical to the relationship - especially since the trust has already been broken once. Ask him how he honestly feels - you'll have to be very careful to do this in a trusting,open, and non-threatening way. Otherwise, he'll just shut down and not talk toyou. You also have to be prepared for what you are going to hear - it may not bewhat you want or expect.

Listen to your heart

Down deep, you know if he's really and truly devoted to you and shares your love fully. But the trick here is to listen to what's really there in your heart, not what you want to hear.

Are you jealous of his ex girlfriend?

An important question here... Was romance important to you even before you found out about his affections toward his ex girlfriend?
It's definitely OK to always grow and change (your mind, your thoughts, your beliefs), but be sure your desire for romantic gestures isn't just out of jealousy over the ex girlfriend.

You know... "He did it for her, why not me?" That's a very destructive path.

Identify your needs in the relationship

I don't think it's the flowers or CD's you're looking for. It's the way these romantic gestures make you feel - special and desired; to know that he truly loves and desires you.

Understand that romance is a way of life. Not all men feel comfortable with romantic gestures because it really puts their heart on the line. Since he has been rejected before, it may even be more difficult for him.

One idea is to take the time to figure out the exact things that make youfeel special and wanted. Sit together and make a list of the top 5 or 10 things that make you feel desired. Make the commitment to do these things for each other on a regular basis, no matter how big or small. Because you're both a bit jaded in this area, be patient and non-judgmental with one another.

Another thing you can do is help him feel very secure in the relationship so that he will feel safe in making romantic gestures. Compliment him on the little things that he does do and let him know every day how important he is to you and how much you appreciate your relationship. The fastest way to change him is to change your perception of him. Every night before you go to bed write down everything that you like and appreciate about him and your relationship - beforeyou know it, he'll start giving you even more reasons to appreciate him. It maysound a little backwards, but this is a very powerful exercise.

Stay together or break up?

Different people come into our lives for one purpose or another. Our instinct is to stay with the same person forever because we're afraid to move on, but sometimes that's not truly the best answer for us.
Many times people grow apart in a relationship, and are no longer happy together. This is primarily because we're always growing and changing. When a couple is not completely open and honest in their communication, they often grow in different directions emotionally, physically, and spiritually. When this happens, it may be necessary to move on. I'm not a believer in settling for second best or holding on to a failing relationship.
Spend some time in quiet contemplation or meditation. Ask God, the Universe,or whomever your higher power is, to help you make the right decision for you. If you listen - the answer will come to you. It's up to you to act on the answer that you receive.

In Summary

The past is only a memory, the future is a dream. Only now is real. Live in the now!

As hard as it may be, you should let go of the past and forgive him for the broken trust in the beginning of the relationship whether you choose to continue the relationship or not. "Forgiveness is God's gift to the forgiver, not the forgiven". Decide what's truly important for you in a relationship and go after it,whether it's with your current boyfriend or not. Don't settle or hang on to your relationship for the wrong reasons. Once your feelings and desires are clear to you, sit down and seriously discuss your wants and needs with your boyfriend. If you desire a life of romance and your boyfriend isn't able to provide it,then it may be time to move on. In this case, I would seriously consider some couples counseling because there are so many issues that you are each dealing with, that you may not beable to get through them alone. An objective 3rd party can really help in asituation where you have so many delicate issues to talk about.

End.

Personal opinion, been through couples couselling, when it's over...it's over. A cousellor just prolongs the ineviable. Move on and ask "Whataboutme?"

Bad relationship / what about me

Good relationship's take work and more work. There are signs that a bad relationship is forming from one that at one point was solid and full of love and hope.

All too often couples go through what seems like a never ending rough patch, totally oblivious to the signs that their relationship is slowly but certainly vanishing....almost unsavable.

It is not uncommon to hold on to the relationship because it was once good and they hope it will get good again. Do not hope, make it happen.

If you are going through a bad patch and don't know if you should or shouldn't call it quits, here are a few signs.

1. You always feel frustrated about your relationship. Your wants and needs are never met.

2. You will say or do anything to avoid spending any time together, let alone quality time.

3. You are being abused physically or emotionally, sometimes the latter is worse.

4. The once overpowering feelings you had are now nowhere to be found.

5. You have sacrificed everything for this person and got nothing in return.

6. You have changed who you are to please them.

7. You look in the mirror and don't recognize the person staring back at you.

8. You have disconnected yourself from friends and family for this person, to no avail.

9. You feel unappreciated.

10. You long for the yesterdays.

If you recognize any of these signs in you and your relationship it is a very clear sign that maybe it is time to call it quits, if you recognize more than 5 of them it is definitely time to end it.

Couples therapy, in my personal opinion is simply post-poning the inevitable.

It may be hard to say goodbye, but think about your future, do you really want to live this way? Hope can be a dngerous thing, especially in a relationship. Remember who you are and what you are worth.

Chances are you are worth more than this type of lifestyle.

Any relationship is about love and caring, yes there may be a few hard times, we all have them, however if you are beginning to doubt your love, there is someone out there for you to be with forever.

Believe in yourself, otherwise it's hard for anyone else to.

The art of flirting: How good are you?

No matter how much time you spend outdoors, it will come to no avail if you're still using come-hither techniques that were in vogue sometime around the invention of the maxipad. The following quiz reveals if you're relying on antiquated maneuvers favoured by medieval maidens-in-waiting.

Flirt Technique Diagnostic

Are the following statements true or false? Pencils up, and begin.If a woman makes the first move, she'll never know if a man really likes her or not.

True______ False______

If a woman initiates a first date, a man will automatically think she's looking for sex and won't respect her.

True_______ False______

Men don't like to be asked out by women. They find it emasculating and a turnoff.

True_______ False______

Pencils down, please.

read the rest here

Dating expert Lauren Frances shares how to become master of our flirting domain. By Lauren Frances

How to Talk to Anyone

Sometimes breaking the ice on a first date can be tough, especially if you are naturally shy.

"I find first dates horrible," says Bob, a fortysomething. "I was married for 15 years and now I'm single I find talking to the opposite sex nerve-wracking. I get sweaty palms, the whole deal."

Luckily for the likes of Bob, you can learn to improve your oral and aural appeal. Confidence expert Leil Lowndes, author of many books including How to Talk to Anyone, Goodbye to Shy and How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You, shares her tips for saying the right things and coming across great on a first date.

Drop the Lines

Unfortunately, there is no sure-fire winning opening line that will guarantee that you charm the pants off your date the second you open your mouth. Making a good impression is a tad more complicated than that and is dependent on the situation as well as the person you are talking to, says Lowndes. That said, there are certain types of ice-breaking questions that work very well.

Lowndes' favorite question to ask a new person is, "What is your average day like?" This is an interesting, thought-provoking question that shows you are interested and is fun to answer, because most people like talking about themselves. Another good one, if the person you are meeting is from somewhere else originally is, "What brought you to the city?" Answers to both of these questions should deliver enough information to fuel further conversation.

Getting gender-specific, Lowndes suggests that men ask their dates questions about themselves and how they feel about things. "Ask why questions, not what questions. Women however should never ask their dates anything about feelings, as this doesn't work well on guys," she says.

Take Your Shy and Shove It

"The first thing you need to realize when you are nervous about talking to your date is that they are probably just as shy as you are," says Lowndes, "The trick is to think confidently, because if your thinking is that you are shy then your body just folds up." You need to keep good posture, display open body language (no arms folded etc.) lean in towards your date, and make sure you look your date in the eyes (as shy people often have difficulty making eye contact.) These things may sound obvious, but they are things that too many of us forget when dating and may often require practice until they happen naturally.

Lowndes advises that guys nod while their date is talking to them, as it shows that they are listening and absorbing what is being said (this takes effort as men usually only nod when they agree with something, while women nod more naturally in conversation to show that they are paying attention.) For women, Lowndes advises touching their date, though very gently. "A wonderful trick is to touch the man's shoulder or pick an imaginary piece of lint off their shirt," says Lowndes. "This creates more of a connection."

If you are worried that you come across as not very interesting, take some time to figure out why. "Energy level has a lot to do with whether or not people find us interesting to talk to," says Lowndes. "If you inject energy into your voice, anything you talk about will come across as interesting, but using one flat tone will make you sound dull. Try taping yourself in conversation then playing it back to find out how other people hear you." Practice speaking more energetically and you'll automatically become more interesting.

The same goes with gestures, as these really add to conversation. While you don't want to be practicing semaphore or throwing gang signs as you try to win your date over, making bigger gestures will add sparkle to your conversation. Lowndes advises watching people at parties who do this well, then trying to incorporate their gesture styling in to your own interactions.
Enlist your friends to help you enrich your conversational style. Hold a group critique of where you think you could all improve, then remind each other when you slip up and do things you shouldn't, such as slouch or use sloppy slang. You'll want to point these things out discretely though or else you risk bruising egos.

Become More Interesting

Lowndes says that it doesn't take much to become more interesting to the opposite sex. This may involve learning about things you are not necessarily yourself -- or don't yet know that you are interested in. She advises that guys pick up Psychology Today magazine to read up on touchy-feely subjects that will make good conversation starters (reading fluffy women's magazines won't do this!) and women should try to learn about sports or other typically male things. "Any woman that can talk about sports is in like Flynn," Lowndes says. (Before you start sending letters we KNOW these are generalizations, OK? They're also quite often truths. Now we're gonna go talk about our feelings. EDs)

Don't Even Go

ThereThere are definite conversation no-go zones if you are trying to connect with someone for the first time. "Just don't talk to guys about their feelings," says Lowndes, "and guys should avoid talking about other dates or making any kind of sexual innuendoes or jokes. Men often say things about their sexual preferences on a first date and most women find that really off-putting."


Article courtesy of msn.com
by Lola Augustine Brown

How to catch a cheating partner/spouse

It's sadly a fact that some partners cheat.I have gone through it and chances are you may have also.

I am taking a break from writing the final touches on the white paper which will focus on this topic.

Stay tuned, but here is a teaser :)

These sizzling secrets about how to catch a cheating husband or catch a cheating wife or boyfriend or girlfriend have been proven time and time again. They work. So what's the catch? You have to actually do it!

Most people who never find out, do so because they never take action or don't look at what is right in front of them! They don't have the self-esteem and strength to catch their partner cheating. They give up and feel sorry for themselves and continue being walked over like a door mat... rather than take on their cheating partner and their lover and expose their filthy affair.

Open up your eyes and your mind to their lies and deceit and let me help you achieve immediate results with your determination and my dynamic methods.If you really truly want a healthy, happy and fulfilling life ... if you want to start respecting yourself by not letting your partner get away with cheating on you and humiliating you ... there is no doubt in my mind this life-changing information will work for you.

Keep checking back for previews and thoughts.

Jolie leaves hospital after giving birth

NICE, France (Reuters) - Angelina Jolie has left the French hospital where she gave birth to twins last week, the hospital said on Saturday.

"Mrs Angelina Jolie left the clinic Santa Maria of Foundation Lenval early in the morning, on July 19. The mother and her babies are doing very well," the Lenval hospital in the southern French city of Nice said in a statement on its website.

Oscar winner Jolie, 33, gave birth to twins Vivienne Marcheline and Knox Leon last week, with actor Brad Pitt, the children's father, by her side.
Jolie slipped out of the hospital unseen by the crowd of reporters, cameramen and photographers camped outside on the fashionable Promenade des Anglais waterfront drive in Nice since she gave birth last weekend.

The precautions reflected the obsessive media interest in Jolie and Pitt, one of Hollywood's most glamorous couples, dubbed "Brangelina" by the celebrity press.

The pair, who have rented a 17th century villa in Provence, reportedly sold picture rights for the babies to a U.S. publication for $11 million, which they will donate to charity.

They have four other children -- Maddox, Pax, Zahara and Shiloh.

(Reporting by Ben Gruber; writing by James Mackenzie; Editing by Jon Boyle)

10 commandments of steak cooking

There truly is nothing simpler to make for dinner than a steak and a salad.

Follow these easy directions to create a perfectly cooked steak every time.

1. Steaks to be cooked quickly in a skillet, on a grill or under the broiler need to be tender cuts. Choose rib eye, filet mignon (tenderloin), strip loin, T-bone and porterhouse varieties.

2. For optimum tenderness, choose steaks that have plenty of marbled fat (don't worry, most of this fat renders out as the steak cooks, leaving only flavour and moisture behind, not extra calories) in the flesh and a modest amount of white fat (known as leaf fat) surrounding the flesh.

3. Avoid buying steaks that are cut thinner than 3/4-inch (1.5-cm) thick since they are often dry and difficult to sear without overcooking.

4. If steaks are very thick (more than 1-1/2 inches/4 cm) cut notches in the surrounding fat so that the steak doesn't curl as it cooks.

5. Bring steak to room temperature before cooking.

6. Preheat pan, grill, or broiling tray until almost smoking before adding meat.

7. Although marinating tender steaks is optional, all steaks taste better if lightly brushed with oil and sprinkled generously with salt and pepper just before cooking.

8. Place a 1-inch (2.5-cm) rib eye, porterhouse or T-bone steak on a hot pan or grill. Reduce heat to medium-high and cook, turning only once, for 6 to 7 minutes for rare, 9 to 12 minutes for medium and (I'm cringing, but if you must), 12 to 15 minutes for well-done (160F/70C).

9. Flank steaks benefit from being marinated overnight and should never be cooked beyond medium. Place a flank steak on a preheated pan and cook for 7 to 10 minutes, turning once. After resting, cut across the grain into thin strips.

10. Tenderloin or filet steaks should not be marinated for longer than 1 hour and, because they are so lean, should not be cooked beyond medium doneness. Place a 1-inch (2.5-cm) medallion of tenderloin on a preheated pan and cook, turning once, for about 5 minutes for rare or 6 to 7 minutes for medium.

Get out there and good eating.

Article courtesy of msn

Sex - How to Last Longer in Bed

A great article about sex.

Lovemaking is an experience in itself. Both you and your partner need to enjoy this experience, it is therefore necessary that you last longer in bed to enjoy every minute of it. However, 93% of men experience having orgasm quicker than they wanted to be, desperate men seek unnatural remedies but still fail.

This article is therefore made to provide you with few advices on how you can last longer in bed to pleasure both you and your partner.

Things to remember about sex

· Be confident. Worrying about your performance will definitely affect your performance in while lovemaking.

· Do not think of orgasm as sex. Sex is in itself the experience and whether you orgasm or not, it is still sex. Thinking of orgasm will make you orgasm quicker than you wish it would.

· Think of sex as a pleasurable experience, which both you and your partner need to enjoy. This will stop you from thinking how well you perform.

· Avoid using erecting lotions, creams, sprays and gels. It will hold pre-ejaculation but you will be less sensitive and will lose the great feeling of sex.

Techniques to last longer in bed

· Relax, do not rush things, enjoy the experience and you may possibly control your orgasm long enough as you want it to.

· Extend the foreplay. Foreplay will give a higher level of pleasure for your partner. Penetration will come easy when both of you have enjoyed the sex together.

· If possible, be underneath your partner. This will help you control orgasm that will lead to longer sex experience.

· Do not rush thrusting, being too excited about the penetration will speed up orgasm. You, of course, do not want this.

Relaxing and keeping pace during sex may be difficult, but if you want to stay longer in bed with your partner pleasured as you do, you surely want to learn how to do this.

Patience is always the secret of improving in any endeavor. Sex is an endeavor if you wanted to ensure pleasure for yourself and your partner. You need to learn how to control yourself and feel every moment of your lovemaking.

My special secret on how to last an extra 32 mins!

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Emma_Drosy

Love at a Distance

5 rules to making a long distance relationship last

1. Communicate in some way every day

2. Don't avoid the important questions

3.Consider yourself lucky

4. Find creative ways to bond

5. Know when to call it quits

Long distance relationships can often be just as fun, loving and difficult as traditional relationships.

There are always ups and downs, there are always good and bad times. There is an old saying that holds true for all couples who truly want to be together and who truly love each other, one I personally live by daily.

It goes like this:

"I don't love you because I need you
I need you because I love you."

Never mind money, possessions, the big home etc. All of these items can be lost in a heart beat. If you don't have love you don't have a reason to make it last.

I will be discussing this topic each day or so for the next little while. Hope you enjoy.

Cool article about friends dating friends, whataboutme?

I like this article that was just sent to me so I wanted to share with everyone. Hope you enjoy it.

Oh, I am not trying to rip anyone off I don't know the article source. I did nor write it myself.


Drawing the Line: Friends Don't Date Friends' Exes

Relationships can be tricky, but certain situations can be down right icky.

Let’s say one of your relatively good friends was seeing a guy for a short period of time. Nothing was official and nothing was officially dismissed, but you suddenly find yourself being attracted to this somewhat spoken-for beau. How about the love affair that lasted a year, but has been over for two? What do you do? Do you flirt with him regardless and hope your friend doesn’t notice? Or do you bow out even though your hormones are on overdrive?

This is a tricky situation that can inspire a variety of reactions in people. There are the people who immediately dismiss such behaviour, since once someone has been touched (no pun intended) by a friend, they are off limits. I get it and agree, but as always, there’s a grey area that most people don’t think about until it actually happens to them. Needless to say, this sort of situation has come up for a friend of mine recently, and it got me thinking about the factors that can make the difference between a green light and a red light when it comes to dating a friend’s ex.

Time

Everyone has that person or perhaps people that once possessed their heart and mind. No matter how much time passes, there’s still a feeling of nostalgia and a certain form of affection that remains. It could be years, but the moment a friend takes an interest in a certain ex, it’s totally natural to be a little upset. But how much is too much? I suppose that’s a judgment call on a case-by-case basis, which is where the grey areas begin. What about the romances that have just recently ended? These can be extremely messy situations as your friend might claim to be over it, but still be smitten. There are all kinds of people who hide their true feelings to save face. It’s important to take this into consideration before you broach the issue.

Closure

Regardless of whether the relationship’s been over for one month or one year, without closure this means nothing. Think about it: who’s had trouble getting over a once true love? Yeah, I thought so. Sometimes from the outside it’s easy to be judgmental and decide that your friend must be over that guy or girl because it’s been so long. This is not always the case. With the romantic rendezvous that don’t have a clear cut ending, the alarm bells should be going off. Stepping into a situation where the boundaries are blurred and the parties involved aren’t entirely sure of where they stand is a surefire way to make an awkward set up even worse. Additional drama? No thanks.

Communication

Let’s say you’ve taken these things into consideration, and you’ve decided that the attraction is too strong and you want to bring up your developing crush with your friend. Be very, very careful as to how you broach the subject. Honesty is definitely a good call and chances are it could potentially get a little awkward, but stick with it. It’s important to get a straight up and clear answer from your friend before making any moves. It would also be a good idea to do a little bit of reading between the lines. When you discuss this topic, chances are the time that has passed and the way the relationship ended will come up, so take care to compare your conclusions and the ones offered by your friend.

Motives

I’m not trying to turn you into jaded skeptics when it comes to finding love, but the underlying objectives of your friend’s ex could be worth a minute or two of thought. Just like your friend could be struggling with her leftover feelings, so could this new person in your life. Who hasn’t tried to make an ex jealous? What could work better than dating one of their friends? Of course, I’m not trying to suggest that everyone has sneaky underhanded motives, but unfortunately, the world is not perfect and things like this do happen. If you’re risking getting into icky friend territory by even bringing up dating an ex, it might be smart to consider all angles.

lots of fish

What does all this have to do with Bruce? Well nothing directly, but once I started thinking about this, I started thinking about how I would feel if any of my friends wanted to date him after we broke up. Yeah, I would definitely not be okay with that. I’m not just saying that because I’m in love with him now. I’m saying that because I can see that the love I feel for him will never actually go away. If we did break up and a friend said she wanted to date him, I’m pretty sure I’d want to rip her face off, but I might just try to hide it with an awkward smile. Alright, alright, probably not. My personal opinion is that emotions are a seriously tricky thing and if you can’t be 100 per cent sure that your friend will be alright with your budding feelings, I’d say steer clear of the situation all together. There are so many millions of people out there that your friends haven’t dated. Go find one of those because they’re so much more fun anyway!


So boys and gals. Don't break the golden rule!!

Be good, have a great day!!

Whataboutme my new "fav" saying lol.